MarySmith’sPlace – Afghan Adventrues#37 One more sleep before Lal

Autumn 1989 somewhere between Yakolang and Lal

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Juma Khan, the truck owner joined Khudadad and me for tea in the guest room. He was accompanied by his elderly wife whose eyes were filmed by cataracts. Pointing to his wife’s eyes he asked what could be done; did I have any medicine to make her see again? My heart sank. I was going to be a very disappointing guest.

I shook my head, explaining only an operation would help. The nearest hospital where such surgery could be performed was Kabul. We all knew, without further discussion, that Juma Khan’s wife would end her days in darkness. More patients from the village arrived for consultations – children with eczema, children with scabies, malnutrition, diarrhoea. The picturesque rural scene I had seen as we arrived disguised the poverty, ignorance and disease in the village.

Apart from a couple of doctors of doubtful qualifications in the bazaar of Yakolang no other medical facility was nearer than our clinic in Lal. Some years ago, an American Government funded mission group had built a hospital in Yakolang. It had been closed, even before the Soviet invasion, amidst rumours of spying and proselytising.  I had seen the modern buildings as we drove through the bazaar earlier and, faced with so many children for whom I could do little to help; I wondered why one of the many aid organisations working in Afghanistan did not re-open the much needed hospital. Our organisation was tiny, but where I wondered were Oxfam, Save the Children, the UN agencies?  Khudadad answered, ‘This place is too far from Pakistan. They don’t want the bother. It is easier for them to help in the nearer, Pashtun areas.’

Although he spoke in English, on hearing the word “Pashtun” Juma Khan’s wife let out a long wail of anguish followed by a voluble speech full of anger and grief. Khudadad explained, ‘This family are originally from near Jaghoray, but the Pushtoon took their land and forced them to move. Many, many families lost their lands at that time and moved here.  The land is not good and farming is hard. They will always hate the Pushtoon people. That is why the Hazaras must have some power when there is a new Government.’

It was quite a speech from Khudadad and the emotion in his voice was clear. ‘When did this happen?’ I asked.

‘During the time of Abdur Rahman Khan,’ he replied. ‘They will never forget.’

L0020789 Emir Abd or-Rahman, Rawalpindi, April, 1885

Abdur Rahman Khan ruled from 1880 to 1901 and is known for uniting Afghanistan after years of fighting when the Durand Line was being negotiated with the British Raj. He also forcibly removed thousands of Hazaras from their lands which were given to Pashtuns. Thousands of Hazaras were killed, raped, sold into slavery and many thousands more left Afghanistan for Iran, Baluchistan (in what is now Pakistan). The Governor of Baluchistan reported to the foreign department of India that he believed Abdur Rahman was intending to exterminate the Hazaras.

Even though she was not even born in the days of Abdur Rahman Khan’s rule I understood Juma Khan’s wife’s anger and grief. At home in Scotland people still talk about The Killing Times, as though they took place a couple of decades ago. It was a period of church conflict in the 17th century.

The rest of the party soon arrived for dinner. More tea was served. Having seen the tea consumption of the average Afghan, I fail to understand why the English are considered to be a race of tea drinkers. Dinner was “sheer brinj” (literally, milk rice) and for me it was a first to see it served as a main, savoury dish rather than as a pudding. I watched to see how I was supposed to tackle the moulded ring of glutinous rice, surrounded a well of hot oil. As he dipped balls of rice into the hot oil, Khudadad muttered, under his breath, complaints about the fare.

I found it unappetising myself but, not surprisingly it was a filling meal and I soon felt that I had eaten more than enough. The driver bellowed a question which Khudadad translated, ‘He wants to know why foreigners eat like birds while Afghans eat like donkeys?’ I mumbled something about how hard most Afghans work compared to us puny foreigners, which provoked much laughter.  I was amazed at how much food they managed to put away, especially as not one of them, even the giant conductor, was even slightly overweight.  If the amount of food they consumed was impressive, the tea drinking which followed was truly awesome. Two enormous kettles containing several gallons of tea were brought, with a smaller teapot for the foreign bird.

As the guests talked and talked I grew more and more sleepy. I might even have fallen asleep had I not been diverted by the antics of a little mouse, scampering nimbly over the bedding and cushions round the edges of the room.  Khudadad caught my eye and grinned when he saw what I was watching but no-one else appeared to have noticed, so engrossed were they in their conversation. At last, the driver upended the kettle. It was empty.  Juma Khan immediately offered to have more tea brought and I smothered a sigh at the thought, but apparently the signal for departure had been given.

Khudadad had been unusually quiet throughout the evening, taking little part in the talk, and I wondered if something was wrong but he replied, ‘No, no. I was a little bored. They were talking about their business.’

While we prepared our beds Khudadad continued to talk, translating chunks of the after dinner conversation, delighted with the improvement in his English which enabled him to be so articulate. I lay down, but Khudadad carried on talking, making up for his silence earlier in the evening. When he had completed his run down of the evening’s discourse, which seemed to have been mainly about the price of goods and transport costs, he began on the political history of the revolution. I would have found this a more interesting topic but, unfortunately, at this point, his English failed him and he turned off the lamp.

There was a sudden scampering by my head as the mouse ran across the pillow, seeking his bed for the night. After a while, I realised he’d found it, inside my pillow case. ‘Khudadad, the mouse is inside my pillow.’ He switched on his torch and we took turns trying to dislodge the mouse, until the ridiculousness of the situation struck us and we both dissolved into helpless laughter. I chose a different pillow, leaving the mouse to his peaceful slumber.

62 thoughts on “MarySmith’sPlace – Afghan Adventrues#37 One more sleep before Lal

    • It is really complicated, Lucinda and made ever more so by other countries interfering over the years – including the British and the Russians. I don’t know if there’s much hope for peace in the immediate future, especially as Taliban are carrying out increasing numbers of attacks.

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    • Oh, thank you, I’m glad you are enjoying No More Mulberries. When I wrote the memoir Drunk Chickens Burnt Macaroni it covered the years between 1993-96 and as I had a lot of diaries from the earlier years I thought I’d share them on the blog – and some of my experiences ended up in No More Mulberries as well.

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  1. If my wife saw a mouse, she wouldn’t even sleep in the same room. I am a bit like that with cockroaches, but happy to sleep alongside a little mouse. I don’t like the sound of ‘milky rice dipped in hot oil’ one bit, Mary. You did well to force that down.
    Best wishes, Pete.

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  2. We forget in the western world that things like cataracts can be taken care of easily.

    My great, great grandfather came to America during the potato famine in Ireland. It was during the time the English were trying to exterminate the Irish. It seems that history is filled with examples of this — and no hue of human or belief system has escaped either being the ones who are purged or the aggressor.

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    • When I was in Pakistan a retired surgeon came out from the UK every year to do cataract surgery and train paramedics how to do it in field conditions. It’s dreadful for someone to lose their sight when a simple op could make such a difference. What the English did in Ireland was despicable ( I’m Scottish, I hasten to add) and yes, you are right being Scottish doesn’t absolve past generations of Scots who, along with the English, made their money through the slave trade or in ruling India. Jeezo – we have this wonderful world and decide to trash it and those who live in it for short term economic benefit.

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      • It is sad that one group of people think of themselves as more worthy of life than another. I have no ill intent toward Scottish, or English. That’s part of my genome, too — along with 1% Bantu people/Cameroon and 1% Native American.

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  3. Well, I was way off base with my thoughts as to your evening meal..not to my taste either, Mary as for mice and the like…living here you get used to sharing with the critters of all sorts…I am past being squeamish now…An enjoyable read 🙂 x

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    • I bet his wife was furious when he brought all those unexpected guests home and there was nothing in the house for them! Yes, I imagine you have lots of strange creatures living with you. I’m still not keen on sharing my living space with spiders. One bit me on the inside of my forearm in Pakistan. By morning the swelling was the size of a tennis ball. Fortunately, there were no other ill effects and everyone kept telling me they were harmless!


      • Poor you that was lucky it wasn’t worse.. Luckily fingers crossed so far I have been ok.. Alan was bitten on his belly button and that swelled but he walks about with no shirt on.. Lily and TIk got bitten by a, scorpion.. Tik always checks the beds in the village as they like getting in the bedding… I found one in our kitchen the other week but dropped a sticky rice pot on top of him and left him to Alan to put him back outside… The price of living here..

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  4. Fascinating how some people hold to their historic grievances and some, say like the Cambodians who suffered under the Khmer Rouge seem to have risen above it. I wonder if they have or the human need to seethe is just suppressed ?

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  5. Another fascinating posts, and memories here in Ireland are also kept alive and influences the hearts and minds of the descendants of pivotal moments in history. My father-in-law when he worked in insurance in the 1950s, sold to two farmers who lived on neighbouring properties but did not speak to each other. Their families had been on different sides of a battle in 1796….As to mice a, when I was about 13 and living in rural Lancashire, a scream was heard one night coming from my parent’s bedroom… we all shot in there to find the dog and cat cowering under the covers, my father still asleep and my mother staring at a mouse eating her cotton wool covered in Ponds Cold Cream on her bedside table, where she had left it after removing her make-up. Our laughter did not help matters and the dog and cat took ages to extract. I have pressed for a little later..xx

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  7. Rice milk dipped in oil? Does it crisp it, then? Tea can be fairly expensive, do they grow their own?
    I still remember screaming the house down when a mouse was in the toe of my boot- I was something like three or four at the time! lol

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    • No it doesn’t crisp it – that might have improved it. I’d eaten a dish made with wheat which we dipped in oil and it was okay but I didn’t like the rice. They don’t grow tea in Afghanistan but it was fairly cheap to buy. When I first went there almost everyone drank black tea but if someone was rich enough they would drink green tea, which was more expensive. Fortunately, I don’t mind mice but I can scream loud enough when I see a big spider.

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  8. Fascinating history and (true) story telling on your part, Mary. The mouse in the pillow made me squirm. I remember the first time my mother-in-law visited our home (long ago, and she stayed in the basement ‘bedroom’). When she slipped her feet into her slippers the next morning her toes found a napping mouse. Embarrassment galore on my part. The mouse wasn’t embarrassed at all. 🙂

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    • Definitely better than a rat, Robbie. I was horrified to learn our town has had a serious rat problem since lockdown began. I don’t understand why that should be as the rubbish bins are collected the same as before.


  10. There are always sad stories to be had everywhere, about a part of the population displacing another. Sad, and even sadder that no help gets to them. Nice of you to give up your pillow to the mouse, Mary!

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